Saturday, September 29, 2007
Joe D' Mango Story
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Of course you've heard of Joe D' Mango. He gives advice on love and relationships on Wave 89.1. Have u ever wondered what he does when he has his own love problems? Does he give advice to himself? Does he handle it very well?
Here's his story:
Three Fridays ago, our guru on relationships, joe d mango, read a letter to his wife on his popular radio program Love Notes. For the past 11 years, he had been giving advice to people who would write him letters about their personal problems. To the surprise of his listeners that Friday, instead of reading one of his usual letters, he read one that he had written himself to his wife Bing. Joe felt that he had to tell his listeners that even someone like him could go through a marital crisis, but that he survived it. Here's how his letter goes.
In our 11 years of marriage it was just the two of us. I never had a close circle of friends and she never had one either. Life for us was just "you and me," day in and day out. We were literally sleeping beside each other for 11 years. It came to point that there was nothing more interesting to talk about. I was aware I was doing that but I never did anything about it. We were so close yet it seemed like we were so distant. Then came her new circle of friends.
They recently had an elementary and high school reunion. Remember her persistent suitor since elementary days? He was there. We already had four daughters and the guy had four kids of his own. They exchanged phone numbers. They started to text each other and this bothered me. a big part of it was insecurity and other part was that she once denied that she was texting the guy. I felt bad because she started hiding things from me. Then the guy asked her if they could meet for lunch. It became a source of tension between us. I finally agreed, but before that, I told her that I felt that I was going through the same pain again. I have seen so many stories like this. If you told me the first part of the story I would already know where it would lead to.
Bing accused me of being a "know-it-all" person. But deep in my heart I knew where she was heading. Why would a married guy see a married girl unless it was for business or professional reasons? Finally, even if it was against my will, I drove her to the meeting place.
While I was waiting at the radio station, I wanted to call her but knew it wasn't proper. So I just waited for her to tell me how their meeting went. When she related to me what happened I felt that she was keeping the other details. I was afraid to ask because I wasn't prepared to accept her answers. I told her that it would be best if that was their last meeting. She got mad and told me that I was starting to control her life.
The following day, I saw a small, torn piece of paper that had the words, "lose you" in the trash can at home. I started picking up the pieces of paper and putting them together. She had written:
"Felt sad because I felt that this will be our last meeting."
"Wanted to hug you..." Before I could figure out what the third one was, Bing was already at my back. She wanted to get the torn pieces of paper back. She said it was private property. We decided to talk. By then, I was able to figure out the third line: "Not sure if afraid to lose you." She had crossed it out and beside it, she had written, "Wanted to cry."
That was what hit me. How could you lose something that's not even with you yet? That was a confirmation that she was getting emotionally attached to the guy. We fought because she didn't want to admit it. She said that what she had written was all about friendship and not about love. For the first time in our marriage she asked for freedom from me. For 11 years we were always together, and now this. She had discovered her own little world and wanted to explore it. I didn't want to give it to her but finally I gave in. I told her that she could do anything she wanted and not worry about how I would feel. In fact, I told her that I was planning to leave her and kids for a while so we could give each other the chance to be alone. We decided to give the new arrangement a try.
The following day, Thursday, I went to work early and she texted me. I never answered back. When I didn't respond, she called me. She said, "I'm sorry. I love you and I miss you." For the first time in our marriage I said, "I love you and I miss you too" with tears in my eyes. I realized how much I loved her but I also knew how much she wanted her freedom. When I arrived at the station I asked for a leave. My boss advised me to think it over, but he said that he would allow me to on leave. After letting it all out I felt relieved. It was the first time in my life that I asked for advice about our relationship.
While I was talking with my boss, a messenger arrived with 12 white roses arranged in a basket. It came from Bing. Then a text message on my cellphone came, "I know that no material things can ease the pain that you're feeling right now, but these flowers signify my pure and sincere intentions.
I'm really sorry. Please forgive me."
Still, a question continued to bug me: "I'm giving you the freedom.
Will you choose to stay or go on?" I read the card, and it had the answer to my question: "Dear Dad, I finally realized that I made a very big mistake in choosing a newfound friendship at the expense of our long-time friendship. Please forgive me. I will always love you."
Bing called the guy and told him that she wanted to end the friendship. He said that they could just text or call each other. Bing said that there was no need.
We had dinner and talked up to 1 am. It was like getting married all over again. We lost each other and found our way back. I do not want to go through the same pain again. Friday came and it was the first time in the history of Love Notes that I couldn't do Love Notes. I scheduled a replay. When I was at the station at 9am, I composed a letter to Bing. I was asking myself, should I read this or do a replay? I chose to read the letter. It is not unusual to hear people say "I love you because...," but this story has shown us that the deeper and greater love is having to say "I LOVE YOU IN SPITE OF..."
What hurts most?
..when you can't fight for that one thing that would make you happy....I may never be the guy you look forward to seeing every day...but I will always be the guy who will look out for you each and every day..Sad Girl: "don't make me feel that I'm just a selfish jerk just because I made you cry"!
Sad Guy: "then don't make me feel like I did nothing for you when I almost died crying just to see you smile..."
Men are haunted by the vastness of eternity. And some ask ourselves:
Will our actions echo across the centuries?
Will strangers hear our names long after we are gone, and wonder who we were, how bravely we fought, how fiercely we loved?
Love isn't when you can't sleep... it's when you want to keep your eyes open...
Love isn't when you keep holding on... it's when you learn to let go...
Love isn't when you kill yourself with jealousy... it's when you understand.. .
Love isn't when you fall for someone... it's when you catch that person when she falls...
Love isn't when you see her everywhere.. . it's when you close your eyes and she is still there...
Love isn't when you tell her what you feel... it's when you give everything for her sake...
And Love isn't when you think you were blind... it's when you know she was wrong but you didn't mind!
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Wednesday, September 26, 2007
fashion forecast 2008
Tuesday, September 25, 2007
Friday, September 21, 2007
~FOB~
dahil sa malayo ang work ko, hindi ko kasama ang family ko araw-araw, i only get to see them during my restdays. naging habit ko na rin to check them every now and then, nag ro-roll call to see if everybody's home na, constantly reminding my mom to take her meds and vitamins, checking kung nasa bahay si mik na gabi na palagi umuuwi from school (from school daw... baka nanood na naman ng sine...), tinatanong kung kumain na sila...
last night was not an exception, i txted mom around 9pm to check kung nasa bahay na si mik, sabi niya wala pa daw, mga 10:30 nagtxt skin si mamu, sbi niya, tinawagan nya daw si mik, pauwi na daw, may school activity lang daw kaya mejo na late... nung nag txt ulit si mamu, sinabi niya na nasa bahay na daw si mik...
bandang 12 midnight tnext ko si mik...
petski: huuuuu... may skul activity... nood ka lang ng FOB weh...
at ang mataray na reply ni mik ay...
mik: and come home at 10:30?? that must have been a very lame concert or it could have been also that i decided to waste money for ticket... whatever...
petski: ano daw? Nosebleed...
kamag anak kaya ni mik si inday?
Wednesday, September 19, 2007
Tuesday, September 18, 2007
chocky boy... yeah boy
there were three judges na nag ii- screen ng aplicants and out of 580 plus na nag try only 80 were given the "golden ticket" para mag proceed sa second round... and out of the 80, only 13 people made it to the finals, nung 80 na sila, para ng pang beauty contest yung mga tanong sa kanila nung judges, for example, if ever na makuha ka bilang bagong member ng rivermaya, would you be willing to change your style, and the way you look to fit the band's image? etc.etc.
eh may isang contestant na member pa ng dalawa pang active band, nabasa yun nung mga judges dun sa profile niya, in-explain niya na actually isang band lang yun, pinalitan lang nila yung name nung una nilang band kasi nde nag click, nung sinabi niya yung band name niya biglang blineep... and then inexplain niya na yung first name ng band niya pag binaliktad yun din yung name ng bago niyang band... and since na bleep nga yung band name niya, na curious kami kung ano yung pangalan ng band niya na baliktaran ang name... napansin ko na biglang tumahimik si chockz, mukhang malalim ang iniisip... and then eureka!!! sabi niya "beb, alam ko na yung pangalan nung band niya... NASABAYABASAN!!!"
ngek!!!
talagang pinag isipan ito!!!
pagtapos nung rivermaya specials, premier naman nung bagong show sa studio 23 na ginaya naman sa jackass tsaka wildboys... anong trip mo?. ang bida dun eh si hyubs tsaka si justine (ng viva hot men)... may isang scene duon, na ang dare sa kanila ay tumakbo sa bukid na hubo't hubad... nung tumatakbo sila, tinatakpan nila hyubs yung harapan nila habang naka exposed yung kanilang wetpaks (behind)... sabi ko "tsk tsk tsk wala talaga silang magawa noh? beb kung ikaw tatakbo ng ganyan, anong tatakpan mo?..." without batting an eyelid, ang sagot sakin ni chocky "... yung mukha ko!"
nakngtokwa, naisip mo pa yun? taba talaga ng utak ni chocky...
Wednesday, September 12, 2007
how open are you?
You Are 36% Open |
You are open at times, but generally you don't let many people into your inner world. It's possible that you have a friend or two that knows you well. But to most people, you are a total mystery. |
a sOng fOr papa
Sorry I never told you
All I wanted to say
And now it's too late to hold you
'Cause you've flown away
So far away
Never had I imagined
Living without your smile
Feeling and knowing you hear me
It keeps me alive Alive
And I know you're shining down on me
from Heaven
Like so many friends
we've lost along the way
And I know eventually we'll be together
One sweet day
Darling, I never showed you
Assumed you'd always be there
I took your presence for granted
But I always cared
And I miss the love we shared
And I know you're shining down on me
from Heaven
Like so many friends we've lost along the way
And I know eventually we'll be together
One sweet day
Although the sun will never shine the same
I'll always look to a brighter day
Lord I know when I lay me down to sleep
You will always listen as I pray
And I know you're shining down on me
from Heaven
Like so many friends we've lost along the way
And I know eventually we'll be together
One sweet day
And I know you're shining down on me
from Heaven
Like so many friends we've lost along the way
And I know eventually we'll be together
One sweet day
Sorry I never told you
All I wanted to say
ei pops hanggang ngayon hindi pa rin namin alam kung paano mag mu-move on... you left us with so many questions... and now we don't know how to find the answers... just like the song says we'll be together one sweet day... untill we meet again pops... we love you very much.. .